Living the Truth 20th November 2012
The recent Carte Blanche feature on Lance Armstrong simply would not leave my thoughts. Where do you draw the line and what is the driving force to live a lie? Professional Sport seems to move the bar of performance higher and higher. Sports men and women seems to be super humans today!
A few years ago our young daughter asked her dad who his role model was and he said “Lance Armstrong, because he is a cancer survivor and through all his personal trials, he still is a world champion cyclist many times over.” The dedication and sheer will power this requires is admirable. Now I ask you: even with performance enhancing drugs – this achievement is still astounding – the hours required every single day, come rain or shine, is relentless. Is all that down the toilet now that he is an alleged liar? We so easily jump on the wagon of condemnation and judgement. I am not defending the behaviour – I would just like to condemn the sin and not the sinner…..
How much a part of life is LYING in our lives? To use Lance Armstrong’s aledged lies as a metaphor then. Does the end result justify the means in business practice, in relationships, in marriage? To say what the other person wants to hear, in order to get what I want, is also just a lie and deception. To cover the truth and repeat a lie – does not eventually make it true.
People are not perfect, you and I are not perfect. Our role models are also humans – to seek perfection is to guarantee yourself disappointment. Much of my unhappiness in life was caused by disappointment. Someone once said “Life is not something that is DONE to us – as in a series of events that have been sent to TEST us – we need to recognize our own contribution to each experience”. My life then, seemed like navigating a volatile ocean, trapped by my EXPECTATIONS and hence repeated DISAPPOINTMENTS. The unhappiness level kept on rising and rising with more and more disappointment. It was only when I stopped blaming everyone and everything else, that I reached calm waters. It is not pleasant to admit your own faults and short comings, however, we also need to learn to be gentle with ourselves. “PEOPLE ARE DOING THE BEST THEY CAN WITH THE RESOURSES THEY HAVE” .
The saying goes that ‘ you can’t unring a bell’. While that may be true, you can certainly smother it under a mountain of lies. Truth rings out like a giant bell – calling us again and again, even if we try to ignore it, eventually we will have to listen.
Karin Engman Life Coach and motivational Speaker Ermelo
thehummingbird@vodmail.co.za 072 1896951
www.karin-engman.blogspot.com
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