A Promise To Myself

A promise to myself    16 April 2013

We need to conduct our own lives according to our own highest moral values that we believe in.  Belief being what we believe to be true, which is different to Faith.  Have you heard the generalized statements or perhaps use them yourself?  We are quick to point a finger elsewhere when we might very well find that on some level we are equally guilty of that behaviour which we so strongly condemn.  Sometimes we need to re-examine just what our beliefs (not religious) really are.  We might need to revise and rethink and update them a little.  “Your beliefs are a magnet that create your reality” (-coach Bobbi). If you don’t like your reality perhaps you need to revise your beliefs. People respond to their perception of reality, not reality itself. (NLP ‘truth’).  At different times of our life it is necessary to take stock of just what it is that be believe is true.  Like waking up when it is still dark and watching the dawn break as the world slowly wakes up.  It’s a beautiful thing….. however, you need to be awake to experience it.  With our young daughter the Disney channel is on far too much in our house. Who would have believed that Disney can still inspire us? I quote:  “I believe in loyalty and trust, I believe loyalty is built on trust.  I am brave sometimes, I am scared sometimes, and sometimes I am brave even when I am scared.  I think standing up for myself is important, I think standing up for others is more important, but standing WITH others is MOST important.  I promise to do my part…..“  It really is time that we stand together as fellow human beings with the same needs and the same dreams.   Albert Einstein said: “The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or in a hostile universe.”

Karin Engman   072 1896951   thehummingbird@vodamail.co.za

www.karin-engman.blogspot.com

Die Skoenlapper Transformasie

Die Skoenlapper transformasie

As kind het ek altyd gewens ek was buitengewoon.  Ek het gedroom van groot avonture.  Dit was die tyd voor TV.  

   Vandag sien en hoor ek wat die invloed van te veel TV op ons jong dogter het.  My drome was van lande vêr weg en baie interessante mense wat ek sou ontmoet.   As ek vandag terug kyk, het baie van daardie drome waar geword.   Ek het al baie gereis en baie ervaar, maar dit was nie op soek na avontuur nie, dit was op soek na myself.  Wat ek vandag vir seker weet is dat al jou seer en al die ongelukkigheid saam gaan waar jy jou ook al bevind.  In verre vreemde lande is jou hart nog steeds die selfde.  Dit is met dankbaarheid dat ek vandag weet dat my geluk in my eie hart begin.  Nou dat ek myself regtig leer ken het, myself leer lief hê het net soos ek is, en daardeur my ware roeping gevind het.  Uiteindelik begin my lewe regtig saak maak en kan ek my deel doen om ‘n verskil te maak.  Om jou ‘roeping’ te vind en elke dag te doen waarvoor jy werklik lief is, is om in vreugde en opgewondenheid te lewe.  Die skoenlapper van my binneste is uiteindelik bevry.     Nou weet ek dat ek, as God se kind, en werktuig alles behalwe gewoon is.  Die lewens-soek wat na ‘n groot draai uiteindelik tog net in jou eie hart eindig, gee die skoenlapper in jou die vryheid om opreg te wees.

   God maak nie foute nie, jy is presies wie jy moet wees.

  Karin Engman- Motivational speaker and Life Coach  072 189 6951

thehummingbird@vodamail.co.za, www.karin-engman.blogspot.com

Healing Deep Wounds

Healing Deep Wounds

To be exposed to war is something you will only understand if you have been there. To supress the pain in some way or the other – has to lead to unhealthy life choices.  In order not to ‘feel’ all that you have witnessed, most try to bury it somehow.  It may be in work, running marathons, or perhaps more obvious dangerous behaviour like drinking, smoking, eating too much etc.  However, it is absolutely NOT possible to run away from this injury forever.  Sooner or later it will start catching up.  Usually in our younger years we are so busy chasing that career or the financial means to provide for our loved ones, that we manage to disguise that, which we know is security filed away in our inner lock down vault.  Small triggers may bring up certain feelings and memories but mostly we can tuck them away again somehow.  In the long run the unhealed memories will show up in our relationships and in our physical health.  It might relate to guilt at the participation or helplessness to prevent the atrocities.  To be in a position of following orders from Government  that required unquestioning obedience haunt many an ex-soldier.  It is only after Vietnam, that the damage caused to ordinary young men really became known .

Post Traumatic Stress disorders, in which ever scale, is a recipe for bad health, relationships and robs the individual of any chance of real happiness.

I thank God today, that I have the opportunity, to do my small bit, to alleviate the pain and perhaps give some of our boys from the border a second chance in life of finding peace and healing of those wounds.  Sadly my beloved brother (may he rest in peace) never found the right person to help him. Perhaps  it is not too late for someone else’s’  brother!

Karin Engman     Life Coach  and motivational speaker     072 1896951

thehummingbird@vodamail.co.za     www.karin-engman.blogspot.com