Thursday 20 March 2014

Oscars to all the Great Pretenders


Oscars to all the Great Pretenders

How deep does DENIAL of the TRUTH go?  Eventually it cultivates an ability to bypass reality and exist on what is perceived as wishful thinking…. or is it survival?  For the sake of the children - For the sake of financial implications - For the sake of the parents - For the sake of the society -  For the sake of work/career - For the sake of …..?

      The price of pretending seems awfully high. It requires being in a constant state of STRESS and ANXIETY and is a sure recipe for ILLNESS.  Maintaining a constant state of FEAR manifests in FURY AND ANGER.   Emotionally and Spiritually you die a slow death until you seize to exist and instead become a SHELL of who you are meant to be. The real YOU cannot exist in this space.

     There are no winners in THE GAME OF THE GREAT PRETENTER, only LOOSERS.  Everyone loses – the children, the parents, the friends and MOST IMPORTANTLY by keeping up the PRETENCE you will have to give up on YOU!

God did not make a mistake when he created you.  YOU are meant to be YOU!

    Dan Millman said: “If you don’t get what you want, you suffer; if you get what you don’t want, you suffer; even when you get exactly what you want, you still suffer because you can’t hold on to it forever.  Your mind is your predicament.  It wants to be free of change.  Free of pain, free of the obligations of life and death, but change is law, and no amount of PRENTENDING will alter that reality.”

Friday 14 March 2014

Fish upon a Star 14 March 2014 Happy birthday my brother


Today would have been your 55th birthday my beloved brother
I will miss you forever....
 
Fish upon a Star


You always loved to fish                        
Childhood memories of ponds              
Cousins all around adoring
All the cares so far before us

 

River rapids calling gently  
Long awaited wish comes true                                                                                                                           Bait prepared and weather perfect                                 
Young hearts  gladdened so

Stalking quietly to settle down 
Hushed voices, sparkling eyes        
Birds calling and cows grazing   
Long grass gently waving                                                                                                                                               

Fish o Fish upon a Star                                                                                                                                  
How I long to be with you      
Bait on hook at rivers edge                                                                                                                  
Spending time together

Fishing from a special Star
Neither near but not so far
Keeping memories alive
Twinkling in my heart

Friday 7 March 2014

Abandonment to Joy 7 March 2014


Abandonment  to  Joy

Spending time at the local town annual Fayre, a special young girl, so very dear to my heart, abandoning herself to pure joy.  She is walking this life as one of God’s special little angels.

      She just could not get enough!  Ride after ride on the big swings, flying high! When the time slot ended, she patiently sat in her swing, adamantly NOT getting off.  As soon as the swings started moving forward, her entire body perked up and her face just beamed. She hopped around in her secure little seat in anticipation.  Barely aware of anything or anyone else, but simply abandoning herself to this experience, right here and right now.  With little squeaks of delight, she held on securely and simply flew round and round and round...

What gives you that feeling of pure abandoned joy? Are we, as adults, even able to feel that?

We all need MORE of that JOYFUL feeling!

 

Karin Engman   Laleli Life Coach and Motivational Speaker    082 7246985