Farewell my friend…. 25 June 2013
The gift of time, to say last words to a terminally ill friend, gave me much cause for contemplation. What do you say, how do you say it, leaving no regrets for later.
We had spent three days together talking of school days and remembering individuals in these old photos. Much laughter as memories popped up of us as teenagers in boarding school. The ache of realization that this would be the last time, yet not daring to discount the possibility of a miracle from God, set in as the day approached to leave. I will cherish the memories forever. I will remember the clarity in her eyes and the bravery of resolve to be strong. It touched me deeply. She passed away a few days later with her mother and her husband at her side.
What does a husband say to his wife or a mother to her daughter in those last minutes? No one can prepare you for this moment… you know it is inevitable, yet you are helpless and totally overwhelmed.
As painful as this situation is, it presents an opportunity to say “farewell – you are loved – you will always be remembered”.
I think of all those, that were not granted this precious time – the loved ones that died unexpectedly. One moment life was the same and the next moment everything changed. I am grateful that we do not have to make this choice.
The morning came to say goodbye, these thoughts came to mind: “Gott schenkt und Gott lenkt. Gott segne Deinen Eingang und Deinen Ausgang.” God gives and God guides. God blesses your entrance and also your exit.
Our time on earth is limited, that is the only thing we can be certain of. What we do with each day that we are given, is our choice.
Karin Engman Life Coach and Motivational Speaker
www.karin-engman.blogspot.com
