Judgement For Publishing 25th September 2012
There comes a time when we no longer need the approval of others in order to believe in ourselves. However, we should always care and be aware of the effect our behaviour and decisions has on others.
As the saying goes: “ The meaning of communication is the response you get”. In other words, if you do not like the reaction or response you get, you need to change the ‘question’. I find this totally liberating. Therefore we can no longer whinge and whine about others – the ball bounces squarely back in our court.
When we learn that we can’t always be sure that people say what they mean or mean what they say, this complicates matters somewhat. It helps to make peace with the fact that ultimately only you are responsible for your choices. We need to learn not to take everything so personally. IT IS NOT ALWAYS ABOUT YOU! There are so many other considerations. Put yourself in the shoes of the OFFENDER. Step out of your drama and look at the situation from a second or even a third perspective. Each person is busy in their own drama and not necessarily in yours.
When we learn to stand on our own feet and take responsibility for our actions and reactions, an inner liberation occurs. Learn to take care of yourself … and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of SELF-RELIANCE.
Sift through all the junk you've been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, how much you should weigh, what you should wear, what you should do for a living, how much money you should make, what you should drive, how and where you should live, who you should marry …. And in this process a sense of new found
CONFIDENCE is born of SELF-APPROVAL and KNOWING just WHO you really are.
CONFIDENCE is born of SELF-APPROVAL and KNOWING just WHO you really are.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties … and in that process a sense of PEACE and CONTENTMENT is born of FORGIVENESS.
Live and Let Live - as there, for the Grace of God, go I.
“One must judge men not by their opinions but what their opinions have made of them” GC Lichtenberg 1789
Karin Engman,
Life Coach and Motivational Speaker
Ermelo, 072 189 6951,
comments: thehummingbird@vodamail.co.za
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