DARE TO GO BARE – Published 11th September 2012
I overheard a lady at the hair dresser telling the perfectly groomed stylist how horrified she is that woman go shopping in their track suits. How could you be seen in a track suit in public – PLEASE!! We won’t mention some ladies walking around town in their slipper.....
In a ‘previous’ life, living in Jozi, I belonged to the perfection club. I had the perfect blond streaks, costing a small fortune and taking the better part of the day. I visited all the youth enhancing, cellulite melting Rosebank Kugel studios. I will be the first to admit, in my early thirties, I looked like a million dollars! Here is the secret – on the outside I looked fabulous, on the inside I was a mess! But that was me and that was then.....
So you can imagine this ‘Kugel’ arriving on the shores of Oz in the early 90’s, training to become a Scuba instructor – make up and perfectly blow dried bob! I was most uncomfortable at first, with NO make-up and to be seen with wet hair plastered in complete disarray all over the place.
Let me assure you, under water, wearing a mask and a huge regulator stuck in your mouth blowing a Jacuzzi on every out breath is NOT attractive! Not to mention the wet suit – goodness me – and to publicly squeeze yourself into this ridiculous contraption is enough to really challenge your self-assurance. Pouring myself into neoprene never got any easier. No matter how cool a brand name or how bright the neon accessories – it is decidedly unattractive. I tried all the variations of wetsuits, but take my word for it, the ones you slide into easily do not keep you warm and chattering teeth for an hour is just not fun. The more you resemble the Oros Man – the toastier you can stay under water!
I recall a few years later, much more comfortable with my natural look, taking a boat load of Russians on a day excursion in Thailand. The young portly men were heavily gold chained and ringed and the high heeled pretty young ladies, would put Barbie to shame. The ladies, I kid you not, gasped horrified during the briefing, realizing that snorkelling required putting their faces into the water. How they had planned on actually seeing fish is still a mystery.
This is not a criticism to enhancing your appearance – the need of a MASK is the sad story. Everyone needs to groom and care about how they present themselves to the world. There is much to be said about hygiene and cleanliness and neatness. Question is: What is your mask of choice? How comfortable are you with the NATURAL you (NO MAKE UP) – would you DARE TO GO BARE? Permanent make-up does NOT count!
We all have our masks in life – for one it may be the perfect appearance, for another the big car, and another the bulging muscles or the brand named clothes or all of the above! The amazing realization comes when you think you are projecting a certain imagine when most see right through it and love you anyway – isn’t it amazing that we are wearing these masks to hide from ourselves and that we are only fooling ourselves?
You are beautiful as you are – nothing wrong with enhancing – but do you really need a MASK? Dare to Go Bare and be the REAL YOU! Let go of the masks that require so much upkeep and maintenance. Let go of the chase of perfection and allow the real you to Blossom. As you emerge fully, and recognize that the people that truly care about you – love the REAL you and not the façade you have cultivated with so much effort! The ones that don’t..... never REALLY loved YOU anyway.
“Don’t write your name on the sand or in the sky, water and wind will wash it away. Write your name in hearts of people, that’s where it will stay.”
Karin Engman Ermelo 072 1896951
Life Coach and Motivational Speaker
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