Light Bulb Moments

Light BulbMoments    26 June 2012

A time comes in your life when you finally get it... when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling! 

A light goes on and a new understanding starts unfolding.

Some call it GROWING UP  – some go through their entire lives and never GET it –  and some get stuck along the way. 

The greatest compliments I received recently was when a person told me:  “it looks like you are glowing”.

Unfortunately this ‘glow’ does not come in a pill form or with and on/off switch. We need to keep on dusting, cleaning and sometimes replacing a few light bulbs along the way…

A light goes on when you realize it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something or someone to change … or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon.

Another light goes on when you come to terms with the fact that neither of you is Prince Charming or Cinderella and that in the real world there aren't always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you … and in the process a sense of SERENITY is born of ACCEPTANCE.

You finally accept the fact that you do not need to be perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are … and that's OK.  Everyone is entitled to their own views and opinions.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for. You learn the difference between WANTING and NEEDING and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with … and in the process you learn to go with and trust your instincts.

 
I believe the greatest “glow’ comes from learning about love. How to love, and even more challenging ALLOWING and accepting LOVE.  

You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be.

You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes.  “Live and Let Live” – and then “Let Go and Let God”.

If we know that we are loved by God, then we can learn to love ourselves and only then can we truly love and be loved.

“To realize the love we hold is like finding hidden treasure!”

Feel the glow!

Relationship/Anxiety  Councelling    Karin Engman

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