Healing Deep Wounds
To be exposed to war is something you will only understand if you have been there. To supress the pain in some way or the other – has to lead to unhealthy life choices. In order not to ‘feel’ all that you have witnessed, most try to bury it somehow. It may be in work, running marathons, or perhaps more obvious dangerous behaviour like drinking, smoking, eating too much etc. However, it is absolutely NOT possible to run away from this injury forever. Sooner or later it will start catching up. Usually in our younger years we are so busy chasing that career or the financial means to provide for our loved ones, that we manage to disguise that, which we know is security filed away in our inner lock down vault. Small triggers may bring up certain feelings and memories but mostly we can tuck them away again somehow. In the long run the unhealed memories will show up in our relationships and in our physical health. It might relate to guilt at the participation or helplessness to prevent the atrocities. To be in a position of following orders from Government that required unquestioning obedience haunt many an ex-soldier. It is only after Vietnam, that the damage caused to ordinary young men really became known .
Post Traumatic Stress disorders, in which ever scale, is a recipe for bad health, relationships and robs the individual of any chance of real happiness.
I thank God today, that I have the opportunity, to do my small bit, to alleviate the pain and perhaps give some of our boys from the border a second chance in life of finding peace and healing of those wounds. Sadly my beloved brother (may he rest in peace) never found the right person to help him. Perhaps it is not too late for someone else’s’ brother!
Karin Engman Life Coach and motivational speaker 072 1896951
thehummingbird@vodamail.co.za www.karin-engman.blogspot.com
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